Archive for Communication
Always Apologize!
Posted by: | CommentsI don’t know if you’ve read any of my posts on my new blog called Letters for My Daughters (where I’m writing a series of life lessons to pass on to them as they make their journey from home to life on their own), but I wrote one the other day on the title above and thought I ought to address the same idea (not the same content :-) with you.
Why? Because it’s a mistake I see a lot of leaders make (i.e. they don’t apologize–or apologize enough–or apologize soon enough) and they all pay a price for that. It doesn’t matter if you’re the President of the United States or the CEO of a global company (BP anyone?) or the Senior Pastor of a large church or the Managing Partner of a large law firm or the Executive Director of a Non-Profit/Association or the Owner of a five person professional services firm. Most leaders don’t get this–and it’s a mistake.
In the post to my daughters I mention that Leroy Jethro Gibbs (the main character on NCIS if you don’t watch the show) is wrong. His opinion is that apologizing is a sign of weakness and you should never do it. I respectfully disagree. Apologizing isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. And great leaders get this.
In Marshall Goldsmith’s wonderful book on leadership, What Got You Here Won’t Get You There (which is a must read), he makes the following statement,
“I regard apologizing as the most magical, healing, restorative gesture human beings can make. It is the centerpiece of my work with executives who want to get better.”
Now, lest you try to brush past this statement quickly, you ought to know that the CEOs Marshall coaches are Fortune 500 CEOs. On the list of the Top 50 Thinkers in Business, he’s number 14. In other words, when Marshall Goldsmith says that the centerpiece in his work with executives who want to get better is to help them learn how to apologize, that’s worth paying attention to.
For years, I’ve taught leaders this same idea–that they should apologize freely and frequently. Why? Because relationships matter. If you’re confident as a leader, then you have the strength to apologize and don’t need to worry about self-preservation or ego. And the amazing thing is that when you do apologize, relationships get stronger and the problem is usually eliminated right then and there.
However, when leaders don’t apologize everything gets worse. Relationships get strained and often sever (and, frequently, for life). Conflicts increase. Trust is broken. Sides are taken. Commitment decreases. New problems arise. Productivity decreases. Etc. In other words, nothing positive happens when leaders choose to not apologize. I’ve literally watched organizations shrivel all because a leader or group of leaders at the top weren’t willing to apologize for what they had done. Amazing!
But apologizing isn’t only the right thing to do because of relationships, it’s also good business practice. For example, in a study at the University of Michigan’s Health System, when they opened the doors for doctors to apologize for a medical error guess what happened? Lawsuits didn’t go up–they went down–and in half! In addition, awards went down as well.
“Apologies for medical errors, along with upfront compensation, (reduces) anger of patients and families, which leads to a reduction in medical malpractice lawsuits and associated defense litigation expenses,” says Doug Wojieszak, spokesman for The Sorry Works! Coalition.
Furthermore, on a practical level, I’ve watched this for years. It’s always been my practice to apologize as quickly as possible. Now, frequently, the issue isn’t over something you’ve actually done wrong, it’s their perception of what you did wrong. In those cases, you can apologize for what it has communicated to them or how it’s affected them. “I’m sorry that when I said … it communicated … to you. That was not my intent at all. And I am truly sorry that it’s negatively affected our relationship.” Apology made. Apology accepted. Conflict ended.
So as you look at your work place and relationships, are there some relationships you need to restore with a long overdue apology? Or is there a decision that you’ve made that has had a negative impact that you haven’t owned up to? Just apologize. And from this point forward, make it your policy to apologize freely, frequently and fast. You’ll be amazed at the impact. Plus, you’ll have just made, “the most magical, healing and restorative gesture a human being can make!” Who can argue with that?
To your accelerated success!
P.S. Yes, there are a few instances where you haven’t done anything wrong and you shouldn’t apologize, but, in general, your default position should be to take responsibility and restore relationships whenever possible.
Why Does Your Team’s Execution Fail?
Posted by: | CommentsI just finished leading a management training session for one of my clients on, “Execution: The Art and Science of Transforming Intention into Reality.” And the one section that probably had the most discussion for us as a group was my first point on realizing why good strategies, tactics and projects often fail in their implementation.
In other words, before someone starts adding something to the mix to improve execution/implementation,
they should first eliminate some of the things that are currently hindering successful implementation. As a typical INTJ, I had a list of 15 hindrances in my notes, but to encourage some more group interaction I decided to ask the leader/managers present to break into groups of three to four people and come up with their own lists of items or issues that hinder execution in their company.
Without betraying confidences, I’m going to combine some of their ideas with some of mine to help get your brain kick started. For example,
- Too many “priorities“ (or conflicting priorities)
- Lack of specificity on the details of who’s responsible for what
- Not enough communication (or unclear communication)
- Lack of trust
- Interruptions
- Poor prioritization of what matters
- Departmental conflicts
- Lack of accountability
- Fear of accountability
- Limited people/resources
- Lack of personal responsibility/commitment
- The complexity of a project (or its size)
- Lack of executive attention
- A tendency to over-analyze (analysis paralysis)
- Lack of ownership
- Lack of excitement about the project, etc.
Now, think about this. If some of these issues are present in your organization, what do you think the probability is that your people are going to execute well? Probably somewhere between zero and nil. It just isn’t going to happen.
Therefore, one of the first places to make changes, if you want to make sure that your team executes better, is to eliminate some of those hindrances. And what I’d recommend is to take this question to your team,
”What hinders us, as a team and company, from executing better and faster?“
Have them brainstorm, while someone writes their ideas on an easel pad (my guess is that ideas will come rather fast and furious–after all, they’ve been thinking about these for years :-). Then, once you have a list, discuss what are the top three hindrances that, if eliminated, would have the greatest impact on increasing our ability to execute.
Then I’d take that list and work, as a team, on creating a plan to eliminate your top three hindrances from your company/organization (i.e. don’t try to fix everything at once. Start with a few items and then expand as you eliminate the current “three”).
Remember, execution doesn’t have to be rocket science. But it does have to be done. So make the list, reduce the list, and then start eliminating the items on the list. Because it’s going to be difficult to create an environment/culture of execution when there are a number of hindrances competing to ensure that execution doesn’t happen.
To your accelerated success!
P.S. You did make that list, didn’t you?
Key Lessons from Steve Jobs at All Things Digital (D8)
Posted by: | CommentsWhenever Steve Jobs speaks, it’s usually worth listening. Love him or hate him, he’s always worth listening to–especially because he masterminded one of the most amazing comebacks of all time. Thirteen years ago when he returned to Apple they were just 90 days away from going bankrupt. And then, just last week, they surpassed Microsoft on market cap making them the second most valuable company in the WORLD–not a bad come back.

Now, if you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you know I don’t write about technology, I write about what leads to growth. And my audience isn’t techies, it’s owners and CEO’s (or other execs at the top). So, as I listened to Steve’s responses to the questions of Walt Mossberg and Kara Swisher at the All Things Digital (D8) Conference, my ears were tuned into Jobs’ comments related to strategy and leadership, marketing and R&D. And the following would be, IMHO, the most important things he said on that front.
Note: Thanks to Macrumors and Engadget for tracking the conversation.
1. Never Underestimate the Power of Vision.
- On his return to Apple in the ’90s: “Apple was about 90 days from going bankrupt. It was much worse than I thought back then. I expected all the good people had left, but I found many of them still there, and I asked them, “Why are you still here?” They said it was because they believed in Apple.”
In other words, Steve and crew had done such a great job of establishing the culture and vision of Apple, that even when things were going bad under different leadership, great people stayed on. As I say over and over again, you can’t cast vision too much.
2. It’s Okay to Zig When Everyone Else Is Zagging
- On the Adobe Flash controversy: “Apple doesn’t have the resources others have, and we have to choose which horses to ride. We try to ride those that are on the way up. If you choose wisely, you save yourself an enormous amount of work.”
As proof of this strategy, Steve pointed to Apple’s moves over the years (ahead of almost everyone else) to moving to 3.5-inch floppies, to discontinuing floppy drives, to removing serial and parallel ports, to adopting USB, to the current removal of even an optical drive in the MacBook Air. In “typical Jobsian” fashion, Steve concluded by saying, “Sometimes people call us crazy.”
In other words, just because ”everyone“ has something or does something in a certain way, doesn’t mean you have to do it that way. All trailblazers at some point realize that have to break with what ”everyone“ is doing.
3. Be Clear on What Drives Your Company–And Stick With It
- On the future of Apple and “platform wars” with Microsoft, Google, Facebook, etc.: “I don’t see it. We never saw ourselves in a platform war with MSFT, and maybe that’s why we lost. We think about the competition, but we’re focused on building a better product.”
Steve is clear on what drives Apple–they’re a product-driven company. They’re not a services-driven company or a knowledge-driven company or a market-driven company etc. They are a product-driven company. When they lost sight of that in the late 80’s and 90’s, they got into trouble. Once they got clear on that again (under Jobs), everything began to change.
4. What You Think Has to Be in a Product/Service Doesn’t
- On tablets: “We did something similar to what we did with the iPhone. We started from scratch and threw out the existing paradigm of handwriting recognition.”
In other words, sometimes, you have to start by deconstructing what you believe to be true. In other words, you have to start from scratch, with a blank slate, and question every part or thing you want to put in to it.
5. Be Willing to Change Your Plans in Response to New Information
At one point, Steve acknowledged that the tablet project (what’s now the iPad) actually came before phone, but realized that phone was more important.
In other words, strategic plans need to be flexible. I’m shocked at how many leaders stick by a plan long after the market is telling them something different. I’m a strategy consultant, and I’m forever reminding leaders that the plan we created last year needs to change as we go through this year. Things change, and what seemed right in October last year, may not be what’s best in June of this year.
6. Stick to Your Values Even When It’s Not Politically In Your Favor
Regarding rejected political cartoon content, Jobs said, “We had a rule that said you can’t defame people. By definition, they defame people.”
Similar to Google’s, ”Do no evil,“ creed, great leaders stick to their values even when it’s not convenient. To me, that’s the real test of a value. For example, are you willing to fire your best producing employee because they’ve broken (and usually consistently broken) a core value? If not, then it’s either not a core value or you’re not doing your job as the leader.
7. Price Aggressively and Go For Volume
During his comments on newspapers, Jobs noted that iPad opens up a way to offer much more than print or static webpages. But he also noted that newspapers should charge less for the online content than their print content … “The biggest lesson Apple has learned is price it aggressively and go for volume.”
So, which of Steve’s lessons do you need to take to heart and apply in your business? Playing out of Jobs’ playbook isn’t a bad strategy to start with. It’s clearly worked for him :-)
To your accelerated success!
How to Reduce Conflict on Your Team Before It Happens
Posted by: | CommentsAs you know, every team has conflict. To find out one of the best ways to ensure that everyone on your team “fights fair” when conflict does arise, you’ll want to watch the following video clip.
Note:
Alex Bogusky Is Wrong! Leaders Should Learn More From Failure
Posted by: | CommentsIn a video post on the Fast Company site, Alex Bogusky, co-chair of Crispin Porter + Bogusky,
argues that the classic business mantra of learning from failure is just plain wrong. In his world (and at his company), he doesn’t debrief failure or lost accounts or why a campaign isn’t working (which I find hard to believe). Rather he wants to focus on successes not failure because he thinks that learning from failure creates a culture of fear.
Moreover, he states that when his company loses a bid or contract, he simple throws away any vestige of that client in their offices and moves on as if that client or bid never existed. In his world, they’ve never lost a bid because if they didn’t get the contract then it isn’t a client they would have wanted to work with.
Besides the fact that I find it hard to believe that his company actually works this way (like they’ve never fired someone for underperforming or they only evaluate based on successes), I find it just bad advice. The reality is that most businesses need to do more learning from failure–not less.
As a consultant, I spend my life walking into companies where problems exist (and they exist in every company, including Bogusky’s). And I have yet to find any company that is really great at evaluation and learning from failure. Most business leaders are so busy trying to stay on top of all their work, that they rarely ever take time to stop and learn from their failures/missed opportunities/mistakes etc. Therefore, they tend to keep making the same mistakes over and over again. As the saying goes (slightly altered),
“Those who don’t learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”
Now, if a leader or manager is a blamer (i.e. a bad leader or manager) then that is a problem–but not with the idea of learning from failure. Rather it’s a failure of the leader/manager to carry out their job well. Likewise, if they’re creating a culture of fear vs. trust, then that’s a leadership issue, not an evaluation problem.
Great leader/managers know that learning from the past, both positive and negative, is essential to improving and optimizing the future. They understand that if there’s a problem, it’s not a person who’s the problem, it’s the system. And the only way to fix the system is to debrief and make sure that they and their team have learned from what happened so that the same problem isn’t repeated. No learning = ongoing problem.
So don’t listen to Alex on this one. Increase your learning from failure (and success). Invest more time in evaluating what happened so that you can both eliminate/minimize any problems and optimize/leverage any successes. It’s not an either/or. It’s a both/and. And in most cases, there’s not enough learning going on. So I’d argue that you need to increase your learnings so you can increase your successes!
To your accelerated success!
P.S. If you want to know the five questions you should always ask when evaluating, click here>>
Is It Time for a Makeover for Your Business (A Lesson from BusinessWeek)
Posted by: | CommentsWhen was the last time you did a website makeover? Or changed the interior design of your workspace/office/store? Or more importantly, changed the way you do business? Or changed the way you market what you offer? Or even changed what you offer?
Most leaders underestimate the power of a makeover–and the speed at which they ought to be undertaken these days. It’s not unusual for someone to be surfing the web these days and think, “Wow! That site looks so … 2009,” and we’re only four months into 2010 (as of the writing of this post).
Next week (starting April 26th) marks the public makeover of a business icon–BusinessWeek (which was bought by Bloomberg back on December 1, 2009). They’ve even created a section on their website describing all the changes.
http://inside.businessweek.com/
Now, I haven’t seen the new remade version, but I do love what they’ve done to prep readers about the makeover. So, here are four lessons worth learning from them about creating a makeover.
1. Teaser campaigns still work. The Bloomberg team has done a great job of promoting the change. If you’re a reader of BusinessWeek, then you know they’ve been talking about “change is coming,” for awhile. And while it’s nothing more than an old school teaser campaign–it’s working. I’ve been reading BusinessWeek for years–and I haven’t been this interested/excited in years.
2. Use video to tell the story of the change. If you go to their website, you’ll see a series of videos from the editor describing the change. Vision casting is usually done best with video (actually it’s best done live, but that’s not an option here). So having Josh Tyrangiel share his vision that, “We take people on journeys … and introduce them to concepts and people that will impact their lives for years, even decades …” was the right decision.
3. Use powerful, short image building phrases to describe the changes. Rather than impress us with their vast vocabulary skills, the design team has done a great job of picking up key phrases we can all understand immediately.
* Reinvented. Redesigned. Reimagined (the tagline for the change)
* More Clarity. More Energy. More Impact (each with four short sub-points defining the changes)
4. Remember that “Look and Feel”/Design matters. While story will always be first and foremost (and should be for a magazine), the Bloomberg team understands that the look and feel of a site or magazine (or whatever you’re producing for the public) does matter. The vast majority of people bring their eyes with them. And whether they want to admit it or not, within seconds, they’ve “judged the book by its cover.” Within seconds they’ve either decided, “culture current” or “old school,” or …
So, as you look at what you and your company are producing and offering, are you in need of a makeover? Is your website or are your other marketing materials in need of a makeover? Is your business model in need of a makeover?
If so, then you may want to take a page from the Bloomberg BusinessWeek playbook in order to make sure that your makeover works for you and your purposes.
To your accelerated success!
P.S. When was the last time your website had a new design. If it’s been more than 12 months, chances are it’s time for a face lift. One of the reasons I’m such a huge fan of WordPress (besides the fact it’s free and that it’s easy to edit) is that WordPress separates out the content and the theme/skin/template. So with one click of a button, you can change the whole “look and feel” of a site without having to change any of the content. In around five seconds you can have a whole new look. Then, you can update the content and layout when you have time.
Why Your People May Not Be Getting What Seems So Obvious to You
Posted by: | CommentsIf you’re like most leaders, you probably have a fair amount of frustration concerning your staff. You ask them to do something. You believe you’ve clearly communicated what you want them to do. And yet, for some reason, they don’t get it (or get it done).
Now, while there are plenty of reasons why this happens, one of the main reasons why (and one that you have complete control over) is this, “Because you’re thinking like you and not like them.” This happens all the time. In fact, it’s one of the most common conversations I have with my clients.
You want something done. Let’s say you want them to call on a client, or follow through on a task, or recruit a new employee, or ask for a referral at the point of sale, or put together the spring company picnic. The actual task is somewhat irrelevant. What is relevant is that you want them to do something.
In your mind, that task is very clear. But is it in theirs?
For example, using Myers-Briggs, I have a number of CEO clients who are classic NTs (intuitive thinkers who go by their gut and don’t like lots of detail and direction). However, most of them have senior leaders who aren’t NTs. In fact, a lot of their top teams are made up of SJs (sensing-judgers who don’t go by their gut and who prefer lots of data, details and direction).
You can see where this is headed, can’t you?
The NT leader doesn’t want lots of direction and details–so he doesn’t give them. When he says, “Angela, put together the company picnic,” in his mind, that’s all she needs. Why? Because that’s all he needs. The last thing he wants is a detailed list of what to do, where to get supplies, what communications to send out, who should be involved, where to hold the picnic, what activities to include or not to include, etc.
However, SJs crave that detail. SJs want to do things right. They like to follow policies and procedures. They don’t like to create from scratch. They get stumped and become indecisive when “everything is an option.” And because they have a leader who hasn’t communicated in a way that they get, they don’t get the task done.
Yes, life would be easier if all of our employees would do what we want them to do when we want them to do those activities simply because “we’re the boss and we told them, ‘Do this.’” However, fighting human nature is usually a losing battle. And as Dr. Phil reminds us, “How’s that working for you?”
If you want to produce results through your people and leverage their time, talents, resources and intellectual property (something which all leaders should want to do), then you’ll want to step back from your own personality and preferences and think about the people you’re communicating with–and then communicate in ways that connect with them.
Remember, what seems obvious to you is not always obvious to others–and that may be precisely why your people are not getting what you want them to get.
So try this. Take something that one or more of your employees aren’t “getting” or doing. Then pretend you’re them in their position and with their personality. How are you hearing the task differently now? Using that understanding, how can you better communicate what you’re trying to say in such a way that they’ll hear what you want them to hear?
Do this and you’ll be way ahead of other CEOs and leaders–plus your people will be getting way more done along the way!
To your accelerated success!


